01-05-2024 12:10 PM
01-05-2024 12:10 PM
@lavenderhaze today isn't really a good day.
Thanks for the thoughts @Emelia8 The support goes both ways too.
@creative_writer it would be worth knowing either way.
01-05-2024 12:49 PM
01-05-2024 12:49 PM
Aw hun @Snowie
We're all here for you
You have shown so much strength and you're so compassionate
I hope you're channeling some of that compassion and kindness towards yourself ❤️
Maybe do something that brings you comfort? Weighted blanket and binging Friends? 🙂
01-05-2024 01:29 PM
01-05-2024 01:29 PM
Its hard to show compassion when it is self inflicted @lavenderhaze
Under my weighted blanket. Have the tv on buy not really watching it.
01-05-2024 02:19 PM
01-05-2024 02:19 PM
I hear you @Snowie ❤️
I think it's much harder to be kind to yourself than others
I try to remind myself that I am doing the best I can when the negative voice in my head is getting too loud
I try to think of myself as a little girl, and it gets a bit easier to show her compassion than my present self, if that makes sense.
01-05-2024 02:31 PM
01-05-2024 02:31 PM
I was asked why @lavenderhaze. Why when I have kids and a hubby. Like I don't have enough shame already. Why be kind when all I feel is shame. That negative voice is overpowering. It does not give one a break.
My psych always says to picture I am talking to myself when I was young. What would I say to that little girl. Why would anyone care. They didn't back then.
01-05-2024 02:54 PM
01-05-2024 02:54 PM
Shame is such a tricky emotion, @Snowie. Like anger, shame usually hides another emotion beneath it.
I completely understand when you say the negative voice is overpowering, and there's no rest. It is so difficult to turn off that voice in us sometimes.
I usually look at myself in the mirror and say things I would say to that little girl. What you say is not important; it's more about making sure that the little child in you feels heard and seen. Especially if you feel nobody cared back then. Tell her that she deserves love. ❤️
01-05-2024 03:18 PM
01-05-2024 03:18 PM
01-05-2024 03:19 PM
01-05-2024 03:19 PM
I avoid mirrors @lavenderhaze I hate looking at myself.
That voice doesn't give in. It wins in the end.
01-05-2024 03:22 PM
01-05-2024 03:22 PM
Minute by minute @creative_writer
How is your day going?
01-05-2024 03:48 PM
01-05-2024 03:48 PM
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