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‎01-09-2019 08:33 AM
‎01-09-2019 08:33 AM
Worried and don't know what to do
I'm so worried about my partner.
He has all the signs of a mental breakdown and when it's a good day he'll acknowledge this, but he won't get help because he thinks that everyone is either too young and over educated with no experience or too old and under educated.
He is self medicating with drugs and alcohol, suicidal in that he just doesn't want to do any of this any more.
On top of this I'm managing 5 kids in a blended family and I'm just struggling. I can't talk to my family because they'd tell me to leave. I can't talk to his family because he'd take it as a betrayal.
I've got a referral to a psychologist to talk about my mental heath bedside of the situation.
I don't know what to do
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‎02-09-2019 09:58 AM
‎02-09-2019 09:58 AM
Re: Worried and don't know what to do
it sounds really tough for you. I don't really have the same experience as you but wanted to welcome you.
I am glad that you have some support for yourself, it can be really hard to watch our loved ones go through a hard time but unaccepting of any help.
perhaps @Faith-and-Hope @Determined @Former-Member @Shaz51 @Smc could offer some advice on what might be helpful
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‎02-09-2019 10:22 AM
‎02-09-2019 10:22 AM
Re: Worried and don't know what to do
Thanks for the tag @outlander 💕
I am hearing you @Jb5 , and I am bedside in a somewhat similar situation, but I am at uni (mature age student) and can’t stop to chat about it just now .... sending you a virtual hug for what it’s worth, but you have landed somewhere where people can hear you and truly underatand.
I will be back later at the other end of the day. Keep taking care of you, and take whatever shortcuts you need to to support your own wellbeing. It’s not selfish - it’s necessary.
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‎02-09-2019 05:10 PM
‎02-09-2019 05:10 PM
Re: Worried and don't know what to do
Hi @Jb5. That is a scary place to be in. Drugs and alcohol are risky enough in their own right, and only a very temporary "false fix".
Going to see a psychologist yourself is definitely worthwhile. When you're caring for someone struggling with MI, you pretty much need to be "unqualified" 24 hour on call mental health support, and you need as much backup as you can get.
Am wondering if you could hunt around for a male psychologist of a similar age to you man? Might he be more inclined to accept help from someone who he'd see as a "peer"?
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‎02-09-2019 05:24 PM
‎02-09-2019 05:24 PM
Re: Worried and don't know what to do
I am hearing you @Jb5 ,Drugs and alcohol are risky enough in their own right,
how are you going today
my husband had a breakdown he took himself to the hospital
we are here for you my friend
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‎02-09-2019 05:31 PM
‎02-09-2019 05:31 PM
Re: Worried and don't know what to do
Hey.
I'm better this morning.
He's talked and we've got a gp appt for tomorrow.
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‎02-09-2019 05:33 PM
‎02-09-2019 05:33 PM
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‎02-09-2019 05:55 PM
‎02-09-2019 05:55 PM
Re: Worried and don't know what to do
That is wonderful news @Jb5 ..... I hope it all goes well.
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‎02-09-2019 07:20 PM
‎02-09-2019 07:20 PM
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‎07-09-2019 10:16 AM
‎07-09-2019 10:16 AM
Re: Worried and don't know what to do
how are things going for you?