27 days sober, need to let go of toxic ex

[MG2879]

@Shaz51 @CalmOwl 

27 days sober yay. I'm holding onto my ex and allowing him to be abusive. He says he wants to be friends so I let him come hangout with me only to suffer four hours of him ranting and belittling me. It's really made my mental health unsettled. I need to cut the emotional ties to him. I'm currently trying really hard to stop contact. 

[TunedIn]

Hi @MG2879 

I'm sorry to hear your ex has been emotionally abusive - being belittled is not okay 🥀 and it makes sense you're left feeling unsettled. It's great you can identify the need to cut ties with him. Well done also for maintaining your sobriety despite all of this 🌟. If you do need some immediate support, you can get in touch with 1800 Respect - Home | 1800RESPECT

Take Care 

TunedIn 🌿

[Abbz77]

I find encouragement in the movie 28 Days with Sandra Bullock to stay sober and let go of an ex who enticed me back into unhelpful habits around alcohol. Her character has to move on from someone like this and I draw strength from that when I’m low and get tempted. Hope it helps.

[Oaktree]

@MG2879 

I was a child in an abusive relationship. My opinion is that no one should put up with abusive behaviour. I know it's easier said than done to say that you shouldn't allow it because things are usually complicated. I would also warn you to be careful because breaking ties can be a dangerous time. 

[SJ888]

12 step programs really helped me when I was going through all this, best of luck

[rav3n]

hey @MG2879 been thinking of you. how are you going? 

[MG2879]

@rav3n 35 days sober, had a massive meltdown this morning cause I've been sick and my carer who's being paid just decided two weeks ago he wasn't caring for me anymore. I have no support worker at all and I'm bed ridden. 

[rav3n]

@MG2879 it's good to hear from you.

wow, great job on getting to day 35!!🎉

i'm so sorry to hear that your carer has suddenly left, especially when you needed them the most. you're absolutely valid for feeling upset and frustrated! 

i know that chatting to someone isn't the same as in-person support, but i did want to link some helplines and alternative support options that you can explore (if/when you're feeling up to it, no pressure at all):

• Contact information, support and treatment services
• New South Wales AOD Services | The Salvation Army Australia
• How to find help | Australian Government Department of Health, Disability and Ageing

the community is here for you too. pls do take things easy and rest up, hope you feel better soon. if there's anything we can do to support you, do let us know 💙

@Oaktree @SJ888 @Abbz77 @Shaz51 

[MG2879]

@rav3n @Thankyou for these supports, I never really thought about the Salvation Army.

Finding out about this community has truely been life saving. Having served my country I feel so blessed to have all these amazing people now watching over me. 

[tyme]

We are cheering you on @MG2879 . We believe in you. We recognise it's not easy, but we have your back. Keep going!